“Compared to them, we have a pretty good marriage!” Good… that seems to be a word that has been used very loosely. My marriage is good compared to… theirs! I don’t cheat on my spouse or abuse them. Is this how we gauge the level of our marriage? “Our marriage isn’t in a crisis. In fact, we’re pretty happy.” “I don’t cheat on my spouse. We don’t abuse each other. We’re doing fine!”
Your marriage may be “pretty good” or “pretty happy” or “doing fine.” But is mediocrity really all you want out of marriage? Are you really comfortable gauging the level of your marriage by its lack of infidelity or abuse?
At The Hideaway, we want couples to aim higher. We understand that not every marriage is on the rocks. However, we’ve also counseled many husbands and wives who have become such experts at smoothing over rough spots that they’ve stopped seeing conflicts altogether. Their relationship seems “fine.” They feel satisfied with a marriage that’s “good enough.” What they may not realize is the extent to which resentment builds when weaknesses are avoided. Unresolved pain simmers. Eventually, something explosive can occur—and those wounds are not so easily healed.
Our “Good to Great Marriage Experience” retreats use the intensive approach to unearth these hidden issues, helping couples in a “good-enough” marriage transition toward the inspiration and fulfillment of an amazing marriage. After all, no one sets out to have a marriage that’s “just okay.”
"I came not knowing what to expect and believing our marriage was great. I learned that how I acted in life and in marriage was due to all the garbage of my past. But Praise Be to God!!! I am no longer bound by my past but have been set free. I am truly a new creation with a new perspective on my marriage and life. Thank you, thank you, thank you for all your prayers."